Archive | May, 2016

Bread

31 May

“All sorrows are less with bread. ”

― Miguel de Cervantes

My mother tells me ” Why do you buy so much bread? ” I don’t know. I keep getting bread whenever am out : Fruit bread, milk bread, garlic bread, multi grain bread. May be it’s because am not much of a foodie. I like simple bread. I remember when was a student and living in mumbai. I could afford only one loaf of garlic bread. It cost Rs 11 then and would make me happy. It costs Rs 40 now ( less than a $). I do check bakeries for fresh bread. May be should have been a baker.  My mother though get’s upset ” Atleast buy brown bread”.

Garlic-bread-recipe

Image : http://www.goodtoknow.co.uk/recipes/536312/garlic-bread

My knowledge of food is so limited. One of my bosses had asked me ” What will you eat if you go outside..”. I suspect though he  had seen me eating bread sticks.  I will eat bread 🙂

I once attended a christian retreat. They would offer bread three times a day with a dish or a curry. I think the loaf of bread can heal. ” Give us this day our daily bread. ”

I think Cervantes is right ” All sorrows are less with bread.”

I think should stick to boring brown bread ..

Have a good day dear friends ! Eat bread and be happy 🙂

Love, Suresh

 

 

My little life..

30 May

I wake up first every morning. I wait for my mother to wake up. If she get’s up fine. It’s a good day for me. Then I hear the crackling sounds of hen on my brother’s mobile. I don’t know why he has kept that alarm tone. He is innocent. So we have chicken sounds in mornings. I prod him to get up. If both of them get up. I make them go out. My mother for a walk, my brother a bike ride. This happens when both are in grace.

My mother is a Diabetic and last week was difficult as she woke up with low blood sugar. I realised low blood sugar is more harmful than high blood sugar. We constantly monitor blood sugar scale and the permutation and combination of meds and insulin. If she is unwell. She seems to give up. I worry and wonder ” How will go for work”. I like going for work. I am grateful for work. I just need a regular turf so can do my best and live my life.

My biggest job is to take care of my mother and brother. I pray that they are in grace.

I realised the married keep getting married…

The  mediocre live good lives..

There is  institutionalized megalomania..

I have never been one for impressions. I just want to do my work and live my life. I need a social media detox. I need to take a break.  I will share my thoughts here.

I read a article this morning: ” What do you do when You’re overthinking Your Own Happiness.” To quote the writer Jennifer Mattern

” Too Good, we are living in an era of overthinkers. I’m guilty of it, you’re guilty of it, and I bet that guy you’re so smitten with is also guilty of it. In this age of too much information (and the bristling, cynical commentary that usually accompanies it) most of us have lost the knack of something we were all born with: radical trust in the universe and the people all around us.”

For more: http://www.quietrev.com/what-to-do-when-youre-overthinking-your-own-happiness/?utm_medium=email&utm_source=infusionsoft&utm_campaign=weeklynews&inf_contact_key=d6da2faffe017c44b3b9da111a9f8072a1d53fe844fabb4d5fd40ec47a5a6013

I need to declutter. I need my family healthy and in grace. I need to do my work. I want to run and read a book.  I must have good relationships. I love people.

I hope so. I just hope my family wakes up well. So can live my day and life.

Have a happy day dear friends! 6am-7am happy, 7am – 8 am happy, 8am – 9 am happy….:)

Have a good day!

Love, Suresh

Champions speak :Jahangir Khan,Virat Kohli,Diego Simeone..

29 May

Losing never seemed an option

” I was not allowed to play. Not by my family, but the doctors, who thought I was too sickly as a child to take the enormous strain that squash places on the body. I started out hearing – and therefore speech – impaired, learning to speak only once my hearing had been restored. I had undergone two surgeries at ages 5 and 12, and nobody could imagine that there was an athletic bone in my body.

From there to being called the fittest man in the world, or setting a Guinness Book record for an undefeated winning streak of 555 games in any sport – that has been my journey to perfection.

Like any true Pathan, I was most drawn to that which was forbidden to me! And the complete dedication to my sport, the hours of practice every day, the countless sacrifices, all those were my tools to attain perfection.

When I was playing. I was so driven to win that every day seemed like my first day in squash. Losing was never an option. And the day I stopped playing, when I was only 29, I realised that I had done everything I had set out to do. I attained my version of perfection.

I attained my version of perfection.The jouney began with a personal tragedy, one that almost stopped me from playing. At the age of 27, on court playing the World Open in Australia, Torsam my brother, my mentor, and my best friend, died of a heart attack.

I was 15, and my world came to an end. I gave up squash altogether, went back to Pakistan from England, where I was training and vowed never to step on court again.”

―  Jahangir Khan, Losing never seemed an option, Times of India. May 28, 2016

I had always read and followed with awe and inspiration exploits of the great squash champion Jahangir Khan as a child.  He also had another great rival Jansher Khan. I knew squash was a tough sport and required tremendous stamina. Like all racquet sports.  I guess services ( Army, Airforce, Navy) produced good number of players in my country. I knew the great champion from Pakistan had lost his brother on court to a heart attack.  Jahangir Khan was a tour de force and a great champion, imagine not losing for five years and with a winning streak of 555 matches. Perhaps Usain Bolt is in same league in dominance.  One of the greatest sports persons in my opinion.  Although from a illustrious family of squash greats, to come from adversity and win. May be its the early adersity that fuelled the relentless drive to win. Imagine going for a win everyday!

Every day is a new day

” Every day is a new day. I always feel that there is a scope for improvement and with every game, I take the plus and the minus as this helps me to improvise. There is no substitute to hard work and discipline.

I went through the same stuff that every cricketer goes through whe he comes in. You are insecure about your place, you make mistakes in your desperation. You want to do really well and you don’t really control yourself on and off the field.

But as time progresses, you settle down and make consistent choices in your game as well as off the field which gradually helps you be on the top of the game.

I come from a humble background, thus understand the importance of charity. It was there in my mind to start something for a long time, to give back to society and I have time and again come forward to support any cause related to children and youth empowerment”

― Virat Kohli, Every day is a new day, Times of India. May 28, 2016

Virat Kohli is young and champion cricketer. I am no astologer but can safely say that the young star will end up as one of the greatest ever to play the game of cricket. I do not say so on the basis of his records, talent or passion. Every body wants to do well. But on his desire to win every day, his intelligence and ability to learn.  My young colleague said ” Kohli is exceptional. Sachin ( tendulkar) was very talented, he had to learn..” She is right. It is this tremendous desire to win, face adverse situations and learn. Virat kohli had to play a cricket match at 17,the day he lost his father and he went and scored runs. It is perhaps such early adversity that distills focus and will to win at all odds. I admire Virat Kohli. He is a shining example for young people. Indian cricket captain is a tour de force.

I love the pressure

” I like to have 113 years of history on my back. I love the pressure, I love it. To play a final is fantastic. To win it, there’s nothing better.”

― Diego Simeone, Athletico Madrid coach, AFP , Times of India. May 28, 2016

I know Real Madrid won  Champion league final on a penalty shoot out. For me it dosen’t matter. I read this yesterday and the challenger coach’s approach appealed to me. It is the pressure and love of pressure to win is important.

This for today dear friends. I read all of this in Times of India’s print edition yesterday and wanted to share for you dear friends. I like to study and take inspiration from sports.

Those of us who are in regular jobs and careers need to stay inspired and be prepared when our time comes or a opportunity knocks our way.  It is desire to win every day and to come from adversity that is important.

Stay inspired and be healthy dear friends!

Have a easy sunday!

Love, Suresh

 

 

Great voices – Balraj Sahni

28 May

Whenever I lost courage, my life became a meaningless burden

” I’d like to tell you about an incident which took place in my college days and which I have never been able to forget. It has left a permanent impression on my mind.

I was going by bus from Rawalpindi to Kashmir with my family to enjoy the summer vacation. Half-way through, we were halted because a big chunk of the road had been swept away by a landslide caused by rain the previous night. We joined the long queues of buses and cars on either side of the landslide. Impatiently, we waited for the road to clear. It was a difficult job for the PWD and it took some days before they could cut a passage through. During all this time, the passengers and the drivers of vehicles made a difficult situation even more difficult by their impatience and constant demonstration. Even the villagers nearby got fed up with the high-handed behaviour of the city-walas.

One morning, the overseer declared the road open. The green- flag was waved to the drivers. But we saw a strange sight. No driver was willing to be the first to cross. They just stood and stared at each other from either side. No doubt the road was a make-shift one and even dangerous. A mountain on one side, and a deep gorge and the river below. Both were forbidding. The overseer had made a careful inspection and had opened the road with a full sense of responsibility. But nobody was prepared to trust his judgment, although these very people had, till the day before, accused him and his department of laziness and incompetence. Half an hour passed by in dumb silence. Nobody moved. Suddenly, we saw a small green sports car approaching. An Englishman was driving it; sitting all by himself. He was a bit surprised to see so many parked vehicles and the crowd there. I was rather conspicuous, wearing my smart jacket and trousers. “What’s happened?” he asked me.

I told him the whole story. He laughed loudly, blew the horn and went straight ahead, crossing the dangerous portion without the least hesitation.

And now the pendulum swung the other way. Every body was so eager to cross that they got into each other’s way and created a new confusion for some time. The noise of hundreds of engines and hundreds of horns was unbearable.

That day I saw with my own eyes the difference in attitudes between a man brought up in a free country and a man brought up in an enslaved one. A free man has the power to think, decide, and act for himself. But the slave loses that power. He always borrows his thinking from others, wavers in his decisions, and more often than not only takes the trodden path.

I learnt a lesson from this incident, which has been valuable to me. I made it a test for my own life. In the course of my life, whenever I have been able to make my own crucial decisions, I have been happy. I have felt the breath of freedom on my face. I have called myself a free man. My spirit has soared high and I have enjoyed life because I have felt there is meaning to life.

But, to be frank, such occasions have been too few. More often than not I had lost courage at the crucial moment, and taken shelter under the wisdom of other people. I had taken the safer path. I made decisions which were expected of me by my family, by the bourgeois class to which I belonged, and the set of values upheld by them. I thought one way but acted in another. For this reason, afterwards I have felt rotten. Some decisions have proved ruinous in terms of human happiness. Whenever I lost courage, my life became a meaningless burden.”

” I told you about an Englishman. I think that in itself is symptomatic of the sense of inferiority that I felt at that time. I could have given you the example of Sardar Bhagat Singh who went to the gallows the same year. I could have given you the example of Mahatma Gandhi who always had the courage to decide for himself. I remember how my college professors and the wise respectable people of my home town shook their heads over the folly of Mahatma Gandhi, who thought he could defeat the most powerful empire on earth with his utopian principles of truth and non-violence. I think less than one per cent of the people of my city dreamt that they would see India free in their lifetime. But Mahatma Gandhi had faith in himself, in his country, and his people. Some of you may have seen a painting of Gandhiji done by Nandlal Bose. It is the picture of a man who has the courage to think and act for himself.”

Balraj Sahni,  Jawaharlal Nehru University ( JNU) convocation address, 1972

For more : http://scroll.in/article/803908/whenever-i-lost-courage-my-life-became-a-meaningless-burden-balraj-sahni-to-jnu-students-in-1972

I must thank Scroll.in for publishing this piece from a 1972 convocation address by the great Indian actor of yesteryears Balraj Sahni. The great Indian actor is right ” When ever we lose courage, life becomes a meaningless burden.” Please do follow link for more.

We must live more and more by the gift of our own convictions and beliefs…otherwise we feel enslaved ..

Like entrepreneurs, artists, scientists, film makers, sports men and women, activists…” everyone “who stick their neck out”…lovers who followed their dreams, passions…

My little treasure is have always made my own decisions, it’s another story it’s not fully worked out…:)

Who knows my luck might change soon…

If we make mistakes, we course correct, we learn, we improve every day…

This for today dear friends, apologies have been away as my mother has been unwell.

Remember then ” Courage to think and act for oneself…”

Have a good day dear friends!

Love, Suresh

Tim Cook― optimism

23 May

” Iam a very optimistic guy. So I always think there is a solution for everything. It’s just a matter of whether you are trying hard enough or thinking about it deeply enough. So that’s the kind of spirit that i brought into it.( Apple) “

― Tim Cook

Apple CEO had this to say in a NDTV Interview in his maiden visit to India. He was asked whether he was ” daunted on taking charge from Steve Jobs.” He said ” Daunted? That’s not how my mind operates and Steve Jobs always encouraged him to be his own person.” It’s a nice interview and will post it. I loved the optimistic outlook. Truly there is always a solution for everything – its just a matter of trying hard enough or thinking deeply enough. I feel best of us have a skeletal sketch of what we want to accomplish, as we try hard enough and think deep enough, we find our vision and structure. Right dear friends.

One more thing ” Never blame any one and never think bad of others.” I think we feel good when we think good about others.

Have a good day dear freinds!

Love, Suresh

 

My mother..

22 May

I woke up with a scare

No matter what do

No matter what seek

There is no respite

I called my sister

A poised child of decision

 

We spent some uncomfortable moments

I send a message to medical practioner

May be it was the night medicine

a disproportionate dosage perhaps

What does allopathy offer?

Like capitalism its best in business

The communists have won in my native

I will never understand why?

What do they offer alternative medicine?

Prayer to russian god, a  red hammer and sickle

I am not in sync with times..

My sister heals.and helps..

 

I have a real opportunity at work

My only salvation

I look for an hour to read

I look for an hour to bike or walk

My two escapes to freedom

I hope my work takes off

Newyork and Fintech

 

I need some grace

I need some respite

There must be some healing

“My mother need to be well”

” My mother needs to be healthy”

I meet medical practioner again…

 

This for today. Have a easy sunday dear friends!

Love, Suresh

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sheryl Sandberg : Great speech ( UC Berkeley)

21 May

 

“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.”

―  Leonard Cohen

This is a brave and great speech. The best speeches are those which are from learnings from our own lives.  Sheryl Sandberg’ University of California Berkeley  2016 commencement address is a great speech.

To be vulnerable and speak truly from heart and with good reason is a sign of courage. To speak about death and learnings from the loss of a loved one  is even greater courage. This is a hard and brave speech. I think this is a slice of life from a very brave courageous woman. My respect has even gone higher for this wonderfully dignified leader at Facebook Sheryl Sandberg.

There are many threads in this speech which is invaluable. Let me quote :

”  One year and thirteen days ago, I lost my husband, Dave. His death was sudden and unexpected. We were at a friend’s fiftieth birthday party in Mexico. I took a nap. Dave went to work out. What followed was the unthinkable — walking into a gym to find him lying on the floor. Flying home to tell my children that their father was gone. Watching his casket being lowered into the ground.

For many months afterward, and at many times since, I was swallowed up in the deep fog of grief — what I think of as the void — an emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even to breathe.

Dave’s death changed me in very profound ways. I learned about the depths of sadness and the brutality of loss. But I also learned that when life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. I learned that in the face of the void — or in the face of any challenge — you can choose joy and meaning.”

” You will almost certainly face more and deeper adversity. There’s loss of opportunity — the job that doesn’t work out, the illness or accident that changes everything in an instant. There’s loss of dignity — the sharp sting of prejudice when it happens. There’s loss of love — the broken relationships that can’t be fixed. And sometimes there’s loss of life itself.

Some of you have already experienced the kind of tragedy and hardship that leave an indelible mark. Last year, Radhika, the winner of the University Medal, spoke so beautifully about the sudden loss of her mother.

The question is not if some of these things will happen to you. They will. Today I want to talk about what happens next. About the things you can do to overcome adversity, no matter what form it takes or when it hits you. The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days — the times that challenge you to your very core — that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive. ”

”  A few weeks after Dave died, I was talking to my friend Phil about a father-son activity that Dave was not here to do. We came up with a plan to fill in for Dave. I cried to him, “But I want Dave.” Phil put his arm around me and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.”

We all at some point live some form of option B. The question is: What do we do then?”

” As a representative of Silicon Valley, I’m pleased to tell you there is data to learn from. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that there are three P’s — personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence — that are critical to how we bounce back from hardship. The seeds of resilience are planted in the way we process the negative events in our lives.”
For more : https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/275924

For more : http://fortune.com/2016/05/14/sandberg-uc-berkley-transcript/

This is a great speech from many vantage points as the speaker has has bared her soul and painful learning in the very best interest of young people. I am not sure young people understand adversity. It only comes when you are exposed to it. It is really in good interest. The sheer goodness of intent is what makes this speech so endearing. I have only admiration for Sheryl Sandberg. This is one of the great speeches have heard recently. It comes from a superlative life which is also very hard.

Sheryl Sandberg talks about pyschologist Martin Seligman’s work on the three traits or the the three ” P’s” that are critical on how we bounce back from hardship : personalization, pervasiveness and permanence. To not personalise everything- that everything that happens to our lives we are responsible for it, the suffering need not be all pervasive as there are parts of our lives which are happy and we must look into those and cherish them, finally difficult as the emotions or feelings are – they are not permament. We will eventually over come those.

Very kindly the speaker shares the value of gratitude and simple process of detailing three events of joy before going back to sleep. And many more ” How to kick shit out of Plan B…”

Iam being very repetitive in choice of words. This is a great speech. This is a brave speech. The speaker has bared her soul and suffering in the best hope that the young ones will learn how to cope with hard days and make best out of lives. How precious life is.

Sheryl Sandberg has shared a Buddha and Silicon valley here. Great speech.

Have a good day dear friends!

Love, Suresh