Meg Jay : Why 30 is not the new 20

14 Jun

I came across this really nice Ted talk on Susan Cain’s Facebook page , whose talk is also something intend to post soon 🙂

This is a really nice talk by clinical psychologist Meg Jay for twenty somethings. This is a really important talk as twenty is the period which really defines our course in life.

I also believe 30is not the new 20 or 40 is not the new 30 , no matter how much people embrace physical fitness and dress down , moms who dress like their daughters or fat old guys who think they are some crazy teenagers and talk in that lingo , good to be cool but there must be something age appropriate . I am not being fastidious and agree age drops lot of inhibitions and no one is to judge anyone but twenty’s are really important developmental phase..

Meg jay says there is a benign neglect of twenty’s period and it has real consequences . This is true and consequences are real on career , marriage and even family.

She quotes Leonard Bernstein “to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time.” This indication for need of urgency and ambition in twenties..

She really give some sane advice for twenty somethings , this is quite instructive :

1. Forget having an Identity crisis and get some identity capital. – Identity capital is to do something that’s an investment in who you might want to be next. Identity capital begets identity capital. It could be cross country job , start up , education now is the time to try and to make work count.

2. To explore weak ties and network : She says “urban tribe is overrated.Second, Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work. That new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle. New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.” Thats how we get an unposted job or even a partner..

3. Pick your family : She recommends to be intentional about love as much as about work , this is the good time to pick your partner and family. She says ” The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work. Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you. ”

So a nice talk for young people and to summarize in her words ” Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.”

I feel the current generation is much smarter and gets what it wants , have a young nephew in college who wants to do a Ph.d in material science, younger little sister who is still in college ,who wants to pursue an intenship in sustainable architecture ..:)

I love young people’s aspirations , they know so much more , try to share little bit of me to them so they can pursue dreams.

There is something for me too, that is to be intentional about work and love. Hope you like it 🙂 Thank you!


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