Archive | May, 2013
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Brene Brown : The power of vulnerability

28 May

I have been away for a wedding and could not post for few days. I wanted to share this wonderful TED ( Houston) talk by Brene Brown. I had come across Brene Brown while reading a blog post by Dr.Lilian Cheung who had written book with Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh. I found Brene Brown extremely persuasive and fun and stumbled on this popular Ted talk 🙂

The transcript is available at : http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

Brene Brown is a researcher and professor who has studied Shame and Vulnerability in her decade long research and comes out with a insight that the reason for disconnection is shame and what underpinned shame was excruciating vulnerability. It is her conclusion that vulnerability is bed rock of shame,fear but also joy , belonging ,creativity and love.

In her qualitative research she arrived at two sets of people : people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and folks who struggle for it. She says people who have a strong sense of love and belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging. She calls these people as ” Whole hearted people who have a deep sense of worthiness”. I loved the term “Whole hearted” people 🙂 It got me interested more ..

She shared her findings that the whole hearted people have following traits :

– Courage
– Compassion
– Connection
– Vulnerability.

These are people who have courage to be imperfect , have a strong sense of compassion to self and others , have connection based on authenticity and embraced vulnerability. They believed being vulnerable made them beautiful.

To quote from the talk ” They talked about the willingness to say, “I love you” first, the willingness to do something where there are no guarantees, the willingness to breathe through waiting for the doctor to call after your mammogram. They’re willing to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.They thought this was fundamental.”

Dr. Brown further says she decided to research why we are not able to make choices like wholehearted people and why do we struggle with vulnerability ? she did a online survey that says, “How would you define vulnerability? Some of the response were :

– Having to ask my husband for help because I’m sick, and we’re newly married
– Initiating sex with my husband
-Initiating sex with my wife
– Being turned down; asking someone out
– Waiting for the doctor to call back
– Getting laid off
-Laying off people

Guess we live in a deeply vulnerable world..

She further states the way we deal with it is we numb vulnerability. We also make uncertain things like religion which should be mystical and faith based certain..

She says something illuminating about politics that there is no discourse or a conversation , just blame..

The other instructive point was children are hard wired for struggle but they need and are worthy of love and belonging at all times . Perhaps this should solve so many struggles and painful consequences whether its delinquency or may be even loss of lives and rabid killings…

Finally she says there is a another way to Live:

– To be seen , deeply seen , to connect
– To love with-our whole hearts even if there are no guarantees
– Practice gratitude and Joy
– To deeply feel ” Iam enough”

I concur with above and my own search has made me deeply realise value of ” Iam enough ” , that’s another post 🙂

Hope you like this talk , its nice ,insightful and fun 🙂 Thank you!

Travelling will be back on Monday ..

24 May

Dear friends , will be on road and  be back on Monday 🙂 happy weekend! Thank you!

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Dare. Change

23 May

My friend had shared this Vivaldi video and wanted to post it here , sometimes an advert captures an innate message beautifully. I love this message of facing our demons and trusting our instincts .if only we would not hesitate and make needless interpretations ,we could show up and face our fears 🙂

Have no fear . Hope you like it 🙂 Thank you!

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Coke Studio – Arif Lohar & Meesha Shafi

22 May

This perhaps the most popular of them all 🙂

Title: Alif Allaaha ,The alif of (the name of) Allah

Language: Punjabi

Poetry: Sultan Bahu (c.1628-1691) and others

alif allah chambe di booti
the letter alif of God’s name is a jasmine flower

te mere murshid mann wich laai – hu
and my Guide has planted it in my heart – He!

nafi asbaat da paani de ke
watering with the negation and affirmation (no God, but God)

har rage har jaai – hu
(watering) each vein and each pore – He!

jug jug jeeve mera murshid sohna
may my beautiful Guide live forever

hath jis eih booti laai – hu
whose hand planted this flower – He!

peer meriya – jugni ji
O Pir of mine – Spirit-being!

ae we allah waaliyaan di jugni ji
indeed, this is the Godly Ones’ Spirit-being!

ae we nabi paak di jugni ji
indeed, this is the Holy Prophet’s Spirit-being!

ae we maula ali waali jugni ji
indeed, this is the Spirit-being devoted to Ali, the Friend of God!

ae we mere peer di jugni ji
indeed, this is my Pir’s Spirit-being!

ae we sar-sabaz di jugni ji
indeed, this is the long-living Pir’s Spirit-being!

dam gutkoon dam gutkoon
like a dove’s call, with every breath, my heart echoes God’s name

dam gutkoon gutkoon kare saaeen te kalma nabi da parhe saaeen
with every breath, remembers the Lord and says the kalma of the Prophet

jugni tar khaaeen wich thaal
O Spirit-being, share what you have with others (place your food in a communal dish and eat)

chad duniya de janjaal
become free of the troubles of the world

kuchh neen nibhna bandiyaan naal
it’s not possible to keep faith with humans

jugni tar khaaeen wich thaal
O Spirit-being, share whatever you have with others (place your food in a communal dish and eat)

chad de duniya de janjaal
become free of the troubles of the world

kuchh neen nibhna bandiyaan naal
it’s not possible to keep faith with humans

rakheen saabat sidq amaal
keep your deeds true and sincere

wanggaan charha lo kuriyon mere daata de darbaar diyaan
Girls, put on the bangles from the court of my Benefactor (Data Ganj Baksh)

na kar dheeya khed piyaari
O daughter, don’t revel in love of fun and play

maan daindi aa gaalaryaan
Mother gives advice

din din tali jawaani jaandi
with each day, the bloom of youth is waning

jyoon sona kuthiaalariyaan
as gold in a goldsmith’s crucible

aurt mard shahzaade sohne
women and men are beautiful and precious

oah moti oah laalariyaan
they are pearls, they are rubies

rakheen saabat sidq amaal
those who don’t care to save their own head

peen parem piyaalariyan
drink from the cup of love

daata de darbaar ch aakho
in the court of the Benefactor, come and state your desire

paawan khair sawaalariyan
(He) will grant prosperity to the petitioners

jugni ji
Spirit-being!

Lyrics :http://m.cokestudio.com.pk/season3/e01-s03.html?WT.cl=1&WT.mn=Alif%20Allah

Thank you 🙂

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Coke Studio – Chakwal Brothers and Meesha Shafi

21 May

I have been a Coke Studio Pakistan fan like many from the sub continent. What brought me here is The Reluctant Fundamentalist actor and singer Meesha Shafi 🙂 hope to see the movie ..

This Punjabi song has a ethereal and sublime quality like all sufi songs , the orchestration and fusion is wonderful ,singers are brilliant..

Title: Ishq Aap Bhe Awalla (Love itself is strange)

Language: Punjabi
Ishq Aap Vi Awalla Ohdey Kam Vi Awalley
Love itself is strange and its doings even stranger

Ishq Aap Vi Awalla Ohdey Kam Vi Awalley
Love itself is strange and its doings even stranger

Jidey Paish Pe Javey Kakh Chhad’da Naein Palley
Those who it pursues are left worthless

Jidey Paish Pe Javey Kakh Chhad’da Naein Palley
Those who it pursues are left worthless

Aes Ishq Ch Yaro, Kuj Kahya Vi Naein Janda
In this love, my friends, you can’t even say anything

Aes Ishq Ch Yaro, Kuj Kahya Vi Naein Janda
In this love, my friends, you can’t even say anything

Rola Paya Vi Na Janda
You can neither shout

Rola Paya Vi Na Janda , Chup Rahya Vi Naein Janda
You can neither shout nor can you stay quiet

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Ghara Chuawein Haan, Sir Te Rakha Wein Haan
Help me pick up the clay pail and place it on my head

Ghara Chuawein Haan, Sir Te Rakha Wein Haan
Help me pick up the clay pail and place it on my head

Ghara Chuawein Haan, Sir Te Rakha Wein Haan
Help me pick up the clay pail and place it on my head

Ghara Meithon Chuweinda Naiyoun Hoo Dhol Ve
I can’t lift it alone, my beloved

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Ghara Bharaindiyan Diggi Gal Di Gaani Ve
While I was filling water in my clay pail my necklace fell off my neck

Ghara Bharaindiyan Diggi Gal Di Gaani Ve
While I was filling water in my clay pail my necklace fell off my neck

Naan Terey Lai Dhola Charhdi Jawani Ve.
I dedicate to you, this blossoming youth

Naan Terey Lai Dhola Charhdi Jawani Ve.
I dedicate to you, this blossoming youth

Naan Terey Lai Dhola Charhdi Jawani Ve.
I dedicate to you, this blossoming youth

Naan Terey Lai Dhola Charhdi Jawani Ve.
I dedicate to you, this blossoming youth

Charhdi Jawan Na Tu Rol Ve
Don’t waste this blossoming youth

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Ghara Bharendian Digga Mathe Da Tikka Ve.
While I was filling water in my clay pail my pendant fell from my forehead.

Ghara Bharendian Digga Mathe Da Tikka Ve.
While I was filling water in my clay pail my pendant fell from my forehead.

Dil Di Ketab Uthey Nam Tera Likheya Ve.
In the book of my heart your name is written

Dil Di Ketab Uthey Nam Tera Likheya Ve.
In the book of my heart your name is written

Dil Di Ketab Uthey Nam Tera Likheya Ve.
In the book of my heart your name is written

Dil Di Ketab Uthey Nam Tera Likheya Ve.
In the book of my heart your name is written

Jira Vi Varqa Khol Ve
Whichever page you turn to open

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Nee Mein Jhol Jhol Ke Ghara Bharendi Aan
O! I whirl and I twirl as I fill water in this clay pail

Lyrics :http://m.cokestudio.com.pk/season5/e02-s05.html?WT.cl=1&WT.mn=Ishq%20Aap%20Bhe%20Awalla

Hope you like this 🙂 Love..

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What does”desti…

20 May

What does”destiny” mean to Dylan?

“It’s a feeling you have that you know something about yourself – nobody else does – the picture you have in your mind of what you’re about will come true,” says Dylan. “It’s kind of a thing you kind of have to keep to your own self, because it’s a fragile feeling. And if you put it out there, somebody will kill it. So, it’s best to keep that all inside.”

– Bob Dylan

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Forever Young – Bob Dylan

19 May

May God bless and keep you always
May your wishes all come true
May you always do for others
And let others do for you
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung
May you stay forever young
Forever young, forever young
May you stay forever young

May you grow up to be righteous
May you grow up to be true
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you
May you always be courageous
Stand upright and be strong
May you stay forever young
Forever young, forever young
May you stay forever young

May your hands always be busy
May your feet always be swift
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift
May your heart always be joyful
May your song always be sung
May you stay forever young
Forever young, forever young
May you stay forever young

– Bob Dylan

May you stay forever young , may you stay forever my friend 🙂 Love..